On The Stories Shared

The stories shared on this website represent a way to begin the conversation as well as a place to receive inspiration. We decided to do this because many of the women we were speaking to were not sure where to start or what would be appropriate to contribute. These stories are only a small amount of the submissions we have so far gathered, as well as some we have personally written, and we will continue to update this space as we receive different mediums that we feel will be helpful for people to begin their own journey of storytelling, sharing, and supporting.

Love and Rage,

Toyah and Frances

A Further Note

We are learning too. And we have no doubt that at times we will fuck up, misrepresent, unintentionally offend (although intention is sometimes irrelevant to those whom we hurt.) So please, if you have any concerns about our terminology, concepts, or the curation of these stories, let us know via email and we will address them straight away.

Love and Rage, Frances & Toyah x

Where We Are Currently At

Hey sisters,

Just wanted to give you all an update about what we have been writing about in the book in case you need some ideas for your own submission. So far we have covered:

  • The Menstrual Cycle ( including PMS, moon cups, IUD, the pill)
  • Moon Phases and their significance
  • Moon Rituals
  • Sex (including physical pain and #MeToo)
  • Pleasure (including self, anatomy, cliterate, partner)
  • The Womb and Womb Rituals
  • Woman’s Wounds (including sister wounds)
  • The Consent Model and Rape Culture
  • Capitalism and the Patriarchy

These are only a handful of the topics we will cover over the course of the book.

We look forward to hearing your stories! And please get in touch if you would like to know more about what we are trying to curate.

Love and Rage,

Toyah and Frances x

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Our Story

We have been friends since we were 15 and what this book represents to us is a merging of two radically different ways of being that through our love for one another had to be constantly mitigated, a learning of another’s language, of seeing the world through their eyes. Toyah, the spiritual one, and Frances, the political one. Both finding a deep love of women and asking themselves, how the fuck can we make this better? So Toyah went inward, and Frances went outward, always coming back together to teach the other what we had learned.

Toyah’s journey is one of festival culture, of connecting with the Great Mother through psychedelics, dance, meditation, workshops, the immersion of self in a world where what matters is personal growth, taking responsibility for your healing and wellbeing, reconnecting with the womb, and learning what we would later call the biz. Frances’ journey is one of theory, of activism, of feminist writing, of the entry into a world of politics that criticised social oppression on every level and fought to dismantle the hold of the powerful over the powerless. What Toyah called universal oneness, Frances called solidarity. And what one learned in her world could always be translated into the other.

The similarities between festival culture and left activism, as well as how the patriarchy insidiously seeps into both, is striking if one bothers to look. Both of these worlds are searching for something deeper, more connected than the isolated realm of neoliberal hyper individualism that has been culturally forced fed to them. Both are about getting free. Of finding belonging and meaning in a world set on pitting humans against one another. Of establishing alternatives to a blatantly broken system where mental illness, suicide, poverty, environmental destruction is rampant, and ideologies of separation, loneliness and survival dominate how we understand and behave towards one another. Of creating community and reconnecting with the Great Mother in ways radically outside of the nuclear family and outside of ideas of domination and the exploitation of people and resources.

When we search for difference, we are bound to find it, when we search for flaws, we are bound to discover them, when we search for superiority, we are bound to further isolate ourselves. When, at this crucial time, what is needed is conversation, connection, finding friends and allies and lovers and teaching each other what we know. It is a coming together of all those who are seeking to do things differently. And it is an acknowledgement that this is both internal and external work, a bridging of the political and the spiritual, an opportunity to look deeply into our shit whilst looking hard at all the shit that society puts on us. For us, there cannot be one without the other.

Inclusivity

Here at Womb with a View we recognise that patriarchy and the Western binary division of gender and the roles prescribed to them not only hurts cisgendered women but hurts everybody, and in particular hurts trans and non-binary persons. It is thus our intention to provide a space where everybody who identifies as female or as non-male has a chance to have their voices heard and their stories told. Whilst we understand that there are some individuals who feel that you must have a particular biology or assume a particular identity i.e “gender as they themselves see/feel it,” the reality is a lot more broad and beautiful than any one narrow lens can adequately portray. In that regard, we also wish to note that no bigotry or hate speech will be tolerated. If you disagree with our definition of women or with how we want to curate our book, then you are most welcome to a) not follow us and b) not read our book. 

Love and rage, Frances and Toyah x